Moving back in with parents: How to avoid getting comfortable!

Like many graduates, I moved back home after completing my degree!

I have kept telling myself a number of reasons why this is acceptable right after graduating from University.

The best reasons so far have been:

  • I am from Glasgow, which in of itself is a larger jobs market than Stirling, where I was studying for the past five years, so there is no point in staying away.
  • Until I get a steady, decent paying job, rent is a terrible and unnecessary drain on savings.
  • My best friend will be coming back to Scotland near to the end of the year so it would be good to wait until we could sort something out together.

However, the comforts of home with Mom and Dad can be all too tempting.

This article will guide you through the steps which I have taken to ensure that I do not become stuck in the comfort zone.

Difference between reasons and excuses for living with parents

For me personally, reasons equate to a justifiable factor which affects your personal situation and decisions. Alternatively, excuses equate to barriers which you give yourself in order to remain in your comfort zone.

Now while some of the reasons for moving back into your parents’ house are justifiable there is an inherent risk that you will not be motivated to change them. Here are some key steps to keeping yourself on the ball and moving forward:

 

  1. Get used to dealing with awkward or unappealing tasks yourself:

When I moved away from home for the first time I had to get used to dealing with numerous difficult or awkward tasks by myself. Whether it was simply tasks such as handling cleaning and cooking, to managing my time more strictly, I learned that embracing the task and taking control of it was better than allowing it to fester. Once I allowed a task to fester because it seems too difficult or awkward then the scale of it would grow inside my head until it had become impossibly overcomplicated.

Once you achieve mental clarity it is possible to break down many seemingly difficult or awkward tasks with remarkable ease. I have even begun meditating each morning.

 

  1. Stick to a routine:

To be successful at university I believe that it is essential to take full control of your time, and your work life. Accept that it is no one else’s responsibility setting the steps for your success other than your own. This applies to your sleeping patterns, how you chose to spend the hours you spend awake, and how you pursue self-improvement in your life.

It is at this point that routine becomes critical. In my experience, my mental health and productivity were facilitated by the reliable repetitive actions which would immediately lead me on to complete the next task, rather than lying in a state of limbo waiting for something or someone to push me forward.

 

  1. Set a condition for staying and for moving out:

If you are telling yourself that you will definitely move out on day, it is a good idea to write out the circumstances under which you will live at home or move out.

If you have a good low or entry level job then work out what you would be paying in rent if you were not living at home. Then set yourself the goal of saving that amount of money – perhaps in a separate savings bank account – which you will be able to use for something useful in the future, such as a down payment on a mortgage for a house.

 

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